If this is a question you have ever asked yourself, have you ever wondered why you want an answer? If you haven't then more than likely you've never looked for the answer, or maybe the question is intimidating, and you already know the answer is complicated. On the surface it seems like a simple question, but I promise you it's not as simple as that and it's not a question you can answer over night or even in the span of years and it changes every day!
A better question to ask is, who am I today? What are my goals today! look to the future say goodbye to the past and live for today!
Sit back take a break pour yourself a cup of wonderful and let me explain. You see who you are is a sum of every situation and relationship that you have ever witnessed or been a part of the lessons you have learned from all those things Who you are is a woven fabric of all the experiences and dreams and goals you have accomplished and forgotten about through your whole life? They have all shaped you and your thinking pattern your defense and offensive and yes you do have these things we all do whether you realize them or not.
It's not what you go through it's how you handle it that makes the difference. This is a whole other subject in itself!
Who you were is not who you are, and your future self is not going to be the same you that you are today! So, this whole finding myself thing people always talk about I think is a crock of shit because once you figure it out, you'll be different and if you're not, you might want to rethink your life on a different level. God forbid I ever want to stop learning and experiencing life on a deeper level! That's crazy!!
I didn't realize that the relationship you have with yourself is more important than any relationship you will ever have with anyone else. Until I took inventory of my life and realized I have changed multiple times and not always for the better. If I had known or made a conscious effort to notice what was happening in me, I may not be as confused or hurt about things I couldn't and can't help.
Let's face it if you don't love yourself, you don't get refunds or get a divorce and find a new one. No, you have to work at being a better human because you are stuck with you! FOREVER AND EVER WITH NO TAKE BACKS!
God has really had to work with me to help me find things that I need to work on because it's true people build metaphorical walls to protect themselves not just from other people or situations but from their own dumbass decisions, so they find vices they turn to instead of facing themselves! Alcohol, Drugs, Sex, and people pleasing that's a rough one to. Listen it happens and all those things keep you and who you really are from everyone, even yourself.
Girls stop!!! Don't you know how wonderful you really are!!!!! You should know that the fact that you even exist is a freaking miracle!! If for no other reason find yourself for you so you will know just how wonderful you really are. Learn to value you so that you can make sure other people in your life treat you accordingly! No, you can't change how others react to you, but you can change how you react to others! Stop letting these crazy illiterate people steal your Joy! Girls pick yourself up off the damn floor!! You're a queen and even if you're the only one that knows it you better own that shit!
You want to make changes that's freaking awesome just make sure you are doing it to impress you not someone else! Learn to love you! Fight your battles for you! Love with all you have for you! Hold your ground for YOU! At the end of the day all you really got is you and God! You love you and the rest of the world will treat you accordingly! If they don't those aren't your people walk away!
WHERE DO I EVEN BEGIN?
Let's do a self-assessment look at the parts of yourself you love and the parts of yourself you don't like so much! I'm not talking about your physical appearance we can work on that later right now I'm talking about the way you can't trust anyone. or the way you can love someone regardless of the opinion's others have of that person! I'm talking about the stuff that really matters! Have you learned to love abuse and just become so accustomed to it you don't know what life looks like outside of it? Has it become comfortable? Don't just think about what you do or don't do look deeper why or why didn't you? To Find you, you need to understand your need and reasoning and come to terms with that and allow yourself access to those parts of you and make the changes you need to make or reinforce the changes you've already made1
As far as your future-self. Experience life on your terms get out of your comfort zone because if you don't, you're always going to experience the same things over and over again. If you don't get out of your comfort zone you will never reach your full potential as long as you're not hurting anyone else take your chance take your moment and run with it.